Cutting Ties with "I Don't Know"
Sometimes the greatest changes come in the simplest of ways. This was one of those moments for me where profound understanding comes and brings immediate change.
Cutting Ties with “I Don’t Know”
As I sat there wrestling with defeat and feeling powerless, I heard that still small voice say, “It’s time to cut ties with “I don’t know”. Instantly, like the downloading of many files in a flash, I was reminded of time after time that I had used this phrase, I used it both internally to myself and out loud toward others.
“I don’t know what people want.”
“I don’t know where to find that detail that my boss asked me for.”
“I don’t know how to make that.”
“I don’t know what my opinion is on what you just said.”
“I don’t know how to love my spouse.”
“I don’t know how to love my friends.”
“I don’t know what I need.”
“I don’t know what I want to do with my life, my money, my time"…I don’t know.”
It is in this moment that I realized I had been hiding in the safety of “I don’t know”. In relationships, my job, walking out my purpose, I used “I don’t know” to hide. I don’t have to risk if I use “I don’t know”. I don’t have to put myself out there with “I don’t know”. I get to feel safe inside of “I don’t know”.
In profound cognizance I declare out loud “I have used I don’t know as a protection, as a hiding place. Then I confidently proclaim, “I break my partnership with “I don’t know”. I cannot walk in my full destiny holding hands with “I don’t know”. I cannot stand before those I am called to with “I don't’ know”. I cannot fully love and be fully known by hiding inside of “I don’t know”. I don’t know has robbed me of opportunities because there is no risk in “I don’t know”. I don’t know is rooted in fear and I want no part of fear in my decision making.”
I felt myself settle and I wondered, “so whats next”? I waited a second and checked in with my heart and asked, “What will replace “I don’t know”? In the space in between the asking and the knowing, I rested. Then I invited unconditional love to be my guide and partner with me in this journey and replace “I don’t know”.
The process following was one of awareness and vulnerability. When I became aware of “I don’t know” wanting to rise up and be my safety, I chose differently. If awareness didn’t come until after I hid and chose “I don’t know” then I told on myself to someone who knows me well. I did this until it became a habit to slap down “I don’t know” as an option.
As you read this, are you aware of a place similar to “I don’t know” that you have used to hide? I invite you to renounce your partnership with it. Borrow my proclamation and fill in the blanks.
I have used_______as a protection, as a hiding place. I break my partnership with _____. I cannot walk in my full destiny holding hands with _____. I cannot stand before those I am called to with _____. I cannot fully love and be fully known by hiding inside of _____.
_____ has robbed me of opportunities because there is no risk in _____. _____ is rooted in fear and I want no part of fear in my decision making
You have my agreement as you step out to risk, to love and to pursue all that’s in your heart.~Melanie Huggard
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